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Post by romily on Jan 15, 2024 9:20:34 GMT -5
I got in touch with a guy who rents out cars recommended from my air bnb host in Barbados. Small business. Contact via watts app. He send me offer right away, and we agreed on the terms,, and then just continued chatting a bit (I was very excited about my holiday so was quote chatty about how much I will enjoy the sun and so on). Got talking about my previous trip to Panama, how traveling alone is the best and so on – just friendly really, went on for about 20 minutes. D
Today he emailed me the invoice and I arranged payment and he messaged me back saying thanks, and that he will send me a sheet with local info of things to o soon, not only the standard touristy stuff. I thanked him and said that eating out is so expensive. So he messaged me back that he can recommend some great local cheap authentic eateries. And that he’s looking forward to catch up in person (they deliver the car). I mean he hasn’t specifically mentioned he will show me in person whereto find good food but it was somehow implied?
And all of a sudden I am wondering if he is actually flirting with me? I haven’t flirted with anybody for soooo long I don’t even know how to notice it, I was just being nice, and excited / bouncy, because, well, holiday.
Either way is fine, but are there any sure signs to tell if somebody is just being nice or flirty?
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Post by tinaja on Jan 15, 2024 11:08:03 GMT -5
Not to burst your balloon but I think that he is just promoting tourism. Or he keeps his options open for what he might consider a wealthy woman hookup.
Though I will admit that I had one of those in Key West. He was the scooter/bike rental guy. But he was the one with the $$. I ended up going back once because he provided the ticket. Fun times but no big romance ensued.
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Post by romily on Jan 15, 2024 13:09:59 GMT -5
oh,I'm not looking for romance, but visiting a country where people speak my language will be fun!
And if there is a little twinkle in somebody's eyes, well, even more fun!
I know all about guys in the Caribbean trying to hook up with "rich" western woman from my trip to Jamaica in 1997 (!), definitely not happening.
But I can't recall the last time a man even gave me a compliment, so that in itself would be nice.
In reality they probably all run screaming away once they see me!
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Post by Liiisa on Jan 15, 2024 13:12:46 GMT -5
Could be a) flirting; b) honest tourist promotion; or c) setting you up for some weird scam
Hopefully not c, but you're smart enough to recognize sketchy things when you see them. If it's a, have fun!
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Post by Webs on Jan 15, 2024 19:42:04 GMT -5
This is not flirting. It's "upselling". Don't play the desperate tourist. That's how people disappear.
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Post by romily on Jan 16, 2024 3:18:21 GMT -5
Gosh people, I won't disappear, be scammed or sold into slavery. Been traveling for decades and know what I am doing.
this was meant to be a light hearted post! Of all things on the planet desperate is not one of the things I am.
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Post by sprite on Jan 17, 2024 11:45:12 GMT -5
Yeah, in that case, I'd suspect 'good customer service' plus outgoing personality.
I'm terrible at recognising flirting. I have had a couple of friends point it out to me, and I'd interpreted it as the same sort of enthusiastic friendliness I tend to show to people as a default. Apparently, not everyone enjoys talking to strangers!
So, maybe this guy is definitely flirting, but because it's fun and takes their mind off other customers who are just crabby and demanding?
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Post by sprite on Jan 17, 2024 11:45:54 GMT -5
And hey, if he does turn out to be up for holiday fun, why not? As long as everyone knows what the score is, I don't see why women shouldn't have flings abroad.
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Post by tzarine on Jan 26, 2024 17:45:20 GMT -5
flirting can be harmless fun
have had flirty waiters, esp in rio son, i am old enough to be your mother, but it's ok
roms, the thought of you being sold into slavery. you'd kick the guy's ass
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Post by tzarine on Feb 8, 2024 16:04:06 GMT -5
this senegalese fellow while trying to sell me fake cologne told me i was a beautiful woman & could he have my phone number. i told him, my husband might have a word w him i did get points for having been to st louis & knowing 3 words of wolof
should be under made me laugh
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Post by Liiisa on Feb 8, 2024 17:24:19 GMT -5
Suddenly reminded of the time I was poolside with my friend at this Taj hotel in Kochi Kerala and a couple of college-age-ish boys who we were chatting with and were also staying there asked us if we wanted to go dancing at a club. Um no. I was 45 and my friend was in her 50s, what were they thinking
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Post by tzarine on Feb 8, 2024 18:02:23 GMT -5
liisa
maybe they liked mature women?
have encountered that w some students tzar used to get the "could you explain this joyce passage" leans over desk another one of his students used to write him @ midnight talking about "inspiration"
in marakesh, a little boy blew me a kiss!
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Post by Liiisa on Feb 8, 2024 18:06:36 GMT -5
Sure. We were actually having an amusing conversation, but I was meaning more like my friend and I definitely didn't have a 'dance clubs are fun' vibe
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Post by tzarine on Feb 8, 2024 18:10:23 GMT -5
liisa, men. who knows? or boys, who knows?
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Post by Liiisa on Feb 8, 2024 18:16:10 GMT -5
Maybe they figured we were rich and would take them to the VIP whatever club thing. Who knows, I never go to those places! It was weird enough just being in that swanky hotel.
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Post by tzarine on Feb 8, 2024 19:20:37 GMT -5
like you were looking for boytoys?
sometimes people mix up chemistry for flirting, too
my ex boss was like this. i would talk w one of my colleagues about our respective teams. it was a taunting kinda thing. i would give him shit if his team lost. she also told me to stop flirting w him. she had other issues, too
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Post by Liiisa on Feb 8, 2024 21:11:19 GMT -5
Who knows. Obviously they could afford the VIP lounge on their own dime if they were staying in that hotel
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Post by romily on Feb 9, 2024 3:28:42 GMT -5
I recall being in Jamaica in my early / mid twenties and simply everybody hit on me (I have big bamboo for you) - so not subtle at all! it was super annoying, but I quickly realised that the area I was in was full with mainly American woman who had their toy boys for their holidays... Like Thailand in reverse. Pretty yuck really.
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Post by Liiisa on Feb 9, 2024 6:39:53 GMT -5
Very yuck
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Post by tzarine on Feb 9, 2024 10:34:41 GMT -5
I recall being in Jamaica in my early / mid twenties and simply everybody hit on me (I have big bamboo for you) - so not subtle at all! it was super annoying, but I quickly realised that the area I was in was full with mainly American woman who had their toy boys for their holidays... Like Thailand in reverse. Pretty yuck really. roms, yes the caribbean is totally reverse thailand not subtle @ all older women w attractive young men havana was old men w boys & girls. big yuck the girl @ the pizza shop like tzarevich
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Post by romily on Feb 9, 2024 13:41:45 GMT -5
Well, Barbados will be interesting then!
But I'm way more assertive and "street smart" now than I was in my early twenties!
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Post by tzarine on Feb 9, 2024 15:26:24 GMT -5
dakar was like that for me lots of male attention many funny encounters
saw many older french women w their "amis"
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Post by ozziegiraffe on Feb 9, 2024 18:52:33 GMT -5
Just realised I often walk or drive around Honiara with one or more young men, but they are family members, who come along to help, carry things and act as unofficial security, as sons and nephews would.
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Post by groo on Feb 10, 2024 2:29:48 GMT -5
I don't think that I've ever been a flirtee - or if I was I was far too obtuse to be aware of it. Alas, I am now well past that point.
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Post by tzarine on Feb 10, 2024 12:18:48 GMT -5
some of tzar's students were pretty aggressive apparently there are girls who want to catch a prof we know several stories of student/professor marriages
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Post by ozziegiraffe on Feb 10, 2024 20:35:59 GMT -5
I know several high school teachers who married former students. These days there are much stricter rules. In my first year of teaching, the school football hero, who was repeating Year 12, and would have been only 2 or 3 years younger than me tried to get too close, but I wasn’t interested.
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Post by tzarine on Feb 10, 2024 22:11:41 GMT -5
tzars high professor died of a sudden heart attack his widowed married one of his students once he turned 18.
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Post by groo on Feb 10, 2024 23:20:32 GMT -5
Was a time when you could train as a teacher in two years here (don't laugh - some of the best practitioners I've worked with were 2yt) and a lass who'd flown through her studies could find herself teaching males who were of their own age or even older.
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Post by ozziegiraffe on Feb 11, 2024 4:11:51 GMT -5
When I was teaching in Solomon Islands in a boarding school, many of our senior students were over 20. Some expat idiot convinced the principal to take two young women as volunteers on their gap year after finishing school at an elite English private school. Very distracting for young male students whose future lives were depending on their exam results, to a much higher extent than they would be here in Australia. We were a virtually closed community of less than 500 people. Not long after, an expat teacher in her 20s, with a husband and baby, got pregnant with one of the students.
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Post by cakemonkey on Feb 12, 2024 17:04:24 GMT -5
Wow. The amount of racist stereotypes/micro aggressions in this thread is quite astounding.
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